Pushing the rope
“Pull the string, and it will follow wherever you wish. Push it, and it will go nowhere at all.” Dwight Eisenhower.
So, a good friend of mine has a 2-year old son. I was at his house last week and his wife Susie said to the child, “Ben, please put that back”. I know her well and was comfortable asking, so I posed this question, “Were you asking or telling Ben what to do?” “Telling”, was her response. I asked her why she said please, “Well, to be polite. I want Ben to be polite when he grows up.”